More tidbits from Telling Yourself the Truth by William Backus & Marie Chapian
Before you read this book, ask yourself this question, “Do I really want to be happy?” If the answer is yes, then I must realize that my joy comes from my relationship to God and His unchanging faithfulness.
“…whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” Philippians 4:8
Pursuing peace means to choose it. You will never have peace if you are putting yourself down. The peaceful person is the one who is at peace with himself. Dag Hammerskjold said, “A man who is at war with himself will be at war with others.” When you like yourself, you will be free to like and appreciate others. When you are hard on yourself, you will be hard on others.
“I can’t even if other people can” are crippling words. Changing your misbeliefs will change your feelings and actions. You can do it.
One of the first parts of our counseling is to take a history. Examining early years may be important for the following reasons:
1. To discover your misbeliefs learned in childhood.
2. To discover your misbeliefs about events in your childhood.
3. To examine your self-talk: What did you tell yourself then? What do you tell yourself now?
Change a person’s beliefs and you will change their feelings and behavior.
There are no pat answers to emotional suffering. Your counselor can pray with you for knowledge and discernment and the wisdom to use them effectively.
What you believe affects how you behave.
A few of the other chapter titles to this book, Telling Yourself the Truth, are:
Misbelief in Depression
Misbelief in Anger
Misbelief in Anxiety
Misbelief in Lack of Self-Control
The Misbelief in Self-Hate
Misbelief in Fear of Change
Misbelief in Never Taking a Chance
Misbelief in Being Indispensable